How to empower our children ?

लोकपाटी न्यूज

• Sangam Basnet

Recent moment, children lacks the curiosity that  used to be some decades throwback. Some couple of days ago I was in  library. I was having conversation with Professor. Instantly, a junior student had questiones that doesn’t not me but also the profeesor become astonished. Questions itself is not an issue here but in the graduation level, a girl from the literate family ask such questions proves that we most of us  literally don’t have the basics foundations. I m not comparing that girl with any body, just trying to addressed the present scenario of Nepal. Some of the adolescents was singing a song which they  never  they don’t know the literal meaning. Why we are become so dumb ever, rushing for something or obsessed about somebody. Is the youths are channelized in the right path ? There I realize isn’t your duty to empower the youths in their early age where minds are perceivable rather than scolding in the adolescence ? So, the problems is not the youths but the parenting in which they groom themselves.The questions arise why the children aren’t guided in the right way that results in their youth age. What are the considerations which should be made for the better way of childhood ?

  Give the rights to take decision.

• There are many children whose even can’t take decision whether they should wear black or white. I mean literally, Why they won’t able to understand the beauty is in them not in their cloth.This is because the restrictive nature of parenting to take decision in every aspects. How much the small or large, conclusion should made of the children aspects should handover to the child so that they can able to understand that all their life is gone withstand by themselves.
• Some may argue even as they are not able to take decision, but my concern is if they aren’t able to take decision in small matters too, how they able hold their decisions in hard times when they have to take resolutions against others views. If they debacle, it’s allright. It’s not bad to become fail but it’s worse  not even to try.If they unsucceed, they would learn from it but they can’t be the worms for the host parent.

Encourage him rather than advise.

• Every children have different complexion. Some are loquacious from early age whereas some were really recident. Don’t compare their nature and give certain tags on it too. Like my son is so frank but daughter is so slient; she is dumb enough. Who the hell are you to judge in that way ? Don’t resemble the complexion with the character. Complexion is the way they are and character is how the society perceives on them. Every silent girl is not dumb enough and every talkative boy doesn’t means smart enough But you take it in a nonsense way. That’s the reason we underrated the children in the basis of their character.
• If your son is silent, try to understand him. Why is he so ? He loves to remain in silence. let it be, observe him thoroughly. He may have the Socrates and Osho in this heart. Look at his eyes, you may feel the vibes of buddha although you may don’t anticipated. There are many examples who are quiet in nature in the childhood, but shine breathtaking way in their later life.
• Give him reason to love not the reason to hate you.

Rejoices the failure not only victory.

• I heard and even experienced many children who have the inferiority complex problem due to the extreme obsession of succession in life. inferiority complex is the mental disorder when the individuals feel low esteem with feeling of not good as others. Parents want their children to get triumph in every realm in their life but think for a second,Is it possible to get succeeded in every aspect in life ?
• No one can get succession in the every aspect of their life but you can excel in any aspect in life. It’s better to pursue for this interest of aspect rather for torturing him.
• I have been also been sabotaged in this concern many times in my life.
• Teach them failure ,is not unsuccess but also the learning of something, which couldn’t achieve thorough winning.
• Enriched with him even with the bitter experiences, to taste with the sweetness.
• When his girlfriend betray her,don’t try to make his mind that every female is source of sufferings. Despite of betrayal,teach him, love is just not confined with the physical intimacy but also the free feeling of liking and enjoying each other’s company.
• When father encourages you, when every other is saying, that’s not for you,little shit.There’s a love. When you arrive home at  midnight, still your old mother awaits for you ,so that she can feed you before she had her dinner. There’s a love.
• Love is emotions expressed naturally without being obsessed in it’s own pace.

learn from the experiences rather than opinions:

• We many times,catechized to others for the future which is absolutely bullshit because other gives advise according to his experiences which may not be applicable in your case. My major points is, if you truly want to know your purposes of life, follow your heart what is saying.
• Other’s opinions impedes to listen your instincts.
• Teach him to, it’s better to be real rather than imitate
• The experiences can be every times can’t be sweet but at least, it’s give gut to move head.
• Don’t be coward to follow your experiences. It may be hard to listen your thinner voice in the loudness of other’s opinions. But believe me,just like you can’t live other’s life. Same way, you can’t have other’s opinions implement in your life.
• Fragnance of roses has it’s own charm and aroma of rhododendron has it’s own beauty; they are simple uncomparable in their own way.

Walk slowly but walk without support:

• How many times, your daughter fall down and cut in her knees while she is running or walking ? But isn’t it beautiful to walk after even after the fall down rather than being lame ? pleading for others for support ?
• We are making our children dependent from early ages. Consequently they aren’t able to convey themselves as they are.
• .Many youths have fear of hydrophobia because their parents never give them chances to swim. The fear is the one, that makes them afraid not the water nor even drowning which is injected in their mind.
• Mango takes really huge time to ripens however when it ripens, it’s the sweetest of all time.Same is happening in child, there grow gradually but they shine in a such way, you imprint their impression beyond you anticipated.

Explore talent rather than success

• We constantly strive to have prosperous life but is the prosperity limited only the asseets and fame, name and money ?
• Isn’t it the inner joy is not necessary to live a satisfactory life ?
• It’s hard to discover yourself,but experiment yourself.
• Explore what is the work that really want to do from heart.
• Listen the urge of your inner soul.
• What gives you real joy in life. If you enable to uncover that in life, you initiates to blessed.
• There are many persons who follow the paths whom is considered as dignitary by the society. However,at the end, they have melancholy view towards their life as they are not able to become ,what they can be. They have everything but they haven’t themselves. Life is without totality. Wholeness is missing in their life as they are not enjoying the work. Satisfaction is absence in the shade of success in their life.

Acknowledge yourself before the society

• Have you ever donate something to beggers when you are visit during any pilgrimage ?
• Have you offer when you saw needy people in the streets corner ?
• Why do you give something to others ?
• Just because holy books like Kuran and Bhagwat Geeta expressed the values of the donation ?
• Is this because you have trending of giving donations in your family ?
• Is this not the reason sufficient reason to have a newly born baby last week ?
• Do you ever feel, to give something; there’s should be enough compassion and kindness in our heart ?
• Don’t you think you should taught them the lesson of affection and empathy rather than formality ?
• Why you posted the posts of condolence if you haven’t enough grief in your heart ? Enough sufferings in nerves. Don’t try to provoke fakeness of your life into your child.
• Teach him to be real and be himself rather than show off.
• Teach them to show gratitudeness towards the divine rather than pleading of asking for self.
• Believe in endevour is essence than someone’s blessings.

Show the differences between dissimilarity and uniqueness.

• Each and every one have happiness and agony in life.we are not dissimilar to each other at all.
• However, to look the better perspectives of agony and realizing even in the hard times,still sticked with what you made for makes you unique.
• How many of us swap our ideas,when you fall down ? Many of us, it’s because we don’t believe to ourselves enough and anticipated to hope positive.
• Many of us, cripple down,in a small toil also as we never know the power of being and that really makes the difference. Teach him that lesson; even in the dying condition, candle shines more gracefully.
• When no body belives you, When you drops out, again and again. When you realize nobody is with you in the hardest battle of your life, that’s the show time. When you truly discovers you enriched you are, how potential you have become. How caliber you got ? The real confidence comes when you are just alone to fought own war to preserve your identity and that makes you unique.

Small efforts can bring the changes in children’s life. Be the change that they anticipated from you.

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